Freshly home from the hospital I was on a mission to help my daughters Jaundice as much as possible. Our doctors appointment for the test was Monday. Throughout the weekend we sat by the window so she could get some sun but to no avail the Jaundice became more and more apparent. Monday morning came and we left for the doctors appointment. They took her blood and then we waited for the results. During her appointment I mentioned a few things I had noticed during the weekend. The doctor took note and sent us home to await the news of the test.
Later that day the doctor called with her results. The count was high, really high, and we needed to take her to the children’s hospital and have them do a more accurate test. If the results were similar to the test performed at the doctors office she would be hospitalized. A danger of having a high bilirubin level is brain damage. My mind was in overdrive as I went to the children’s hospital to see what the accurate test said. We arrived at the hospital and had her tested. The doctor at the children’s hospital arrived, examined my little girl, and explained that the test results were high. That meant we were going to be here for a while. He further explained that she would be under the bilirubin lights, an IV, bottle fed, and countless lab tests. When she was born the Thursday before she had a hole in her heart but when the doctor checked again today it was closed. That lifted my spirits a bit. That was one problem I could cross of my list.
As we waited to be admitted to the hospital I was dealing with a torrent of emotions. I felt helpless, guilty, sad, and alone. I felt I was walking a path I knew nothing about and was trying desperately to learn. I saw mom’s who looked like they were very comfortable at the children’s hospital as if it were second nature. I held my baby and wondered if I was every going to get to that point. My husband and I were trying to juggle all we had going on with a small family and I felt like I already wasn’t keeping up. We were four days into this and she had landed back in the hospital. I tried to do everything I could to keep her out of the hospital but she had still ended up there. I had failed! I had tried and I had failed! I wondered if this is what the rest of my life was going to look like. Trying and failing!?!
After a four hour wait we were finally admitted to the hospital. As the nurses took her to get her settled in her room and under the lights, it was late at night. I had to leave her in the care of her nurses so that my husband and I could pick up my boys from the sitters. As I left I was numb, I had a headache from crying. We put the boys to bed and waited for the morning to come. At breakfast my little boys asked where their sister was. I had to explain that she had to go back to the hospital. As I said the words I still felt like I had failed her.
As I arrived at the hospital the next morning I walked in and her head was half shaved so they could place the IV. As I saw her I was overcome with emotion and started to cry. I wish that she didn’t have to be here! All of a sudden a nurse looked over at me and said, “Your baby is handicapped, what are you crying for?” I was appalled at the callus way the world looked at her.
In the last 4 days I was told by multiple people not to care or worry about this child because she was handicap. I was presented with multiple options on how to “deal” with her. I knew I didn’t know what I was doing and I was not experienced, but I also knew that no little baby needed someone to give up on them right from the start. I didn’t feel like that was fair for her. She needed the love and help of all those around her. I felt a strong need to fight for this little girl. Three days into the hospital stay she was so mad at the nurses and the IV cords that she turned over in her bed. I saw the fight and the stubborn streak she had and my heart grew! Yes, she was handicapped, and yes, she would have her limits, but I was going to push her to those limits. As hard as she was willing to fight, I was too!
-Gail